Monday, 26 September 2016
The Turbulent Teen Years
Growing up is never easy particularly when high-spirited young people reach the age of twelve or thirteen years. Up till this point someone else has always made most the decisions for them. But suddenly the whole situation changes, for these are the years when boys and girls begin to grow rapidly, gaining strength in bone, muscle, and sinew. This is also the time when their minds are beginning to expand rapidly, and each becomes an individual in his own right. Now they begin to put away childish things and become grown-up but such a transition is never simple
Such striking changes always raise serious problems, for parents and teen-ages alike are often confused and uncertain about what to do. The young person feels quite able to handle thins for himself, and yet most of the time he longs instinctively for the protection of home and he guidance of older, and wiser minds. At the same time he does not want to show such ‘weakness’ so he begins to boast loudly, and often becomes defiant and unreasonable , especially towards older members of his own family. Parents must not be too distressed about this, for he is only trying to move out into the adult world for himself. In spite of his attitude he really knows he is really not ready for adult life.
But teen-ages are not the only ones who are “off the bean” at times. Many parents are also unreasonable and expect the young person to do things that are really beyond him. Then in the next breath they say he is “too young to understand” All this adds to the confusion and the teen-ager may decide it is high time to leave home once and for all. But if there is no atmosphere of love and confidence in the home, even the most difficult young person will not eventually pass though these years without permanent harm.
Expect some mistakes!
As far as possible, all young people must be allowed to make their decisions . Naturally they will make some mistakes, just as their parents did. This is how they learn to be self-reliant as adults. However, parents must set sensible rules for them to follow, otherwise they may never learn to live in the adult world. At the same time it is equally important for each young person to be accepted by his own age group.
The young person should not act as if there were no rules of conduct in the world. It is the responsibility of the parents to make sensible rules to guide the teen-ager as he grows up. At the same time he must retain his own individuality. He must now be treated as an equal and not ordered around as a small child. Under this friendly guidance and counsel, he will soon be willing to accept reasonable suggestions, provided his parents are wise enough to solve his problems as a mature young adult. Courtesy wisdom
Bad laws are the worst sort of tyranny
Quote from the true charm and power of Vedanta
The Monistic approach its conditions
There are ordinarily tow type of spiritual aspirants. The majority worship God as the supreme Being endowed with from. They want to enter into a personal relationship with Him as Master, Father, Mother, Friend or Beloved, or to e establish a personal impersonal connection with Him as the Infinite. Whole and the Soul of souls. Aspirants of the second type, want to realize the divine Principle as their very Self or as the One without a second. Unable to adopt the discipline directly leading to this realization, even most of the seekers of this group have to follow the graduated course of dualism, qualified monism and monism . Distinct from these there are some rare and highly qualified aspirants in whom moral perfection freedom from desires and the spirit of detachment have reached a high standard of development. They resolutely follow the direct path to the Absolute, transcending subject –object relationships of all kinds.
The devotees who worship God endowed with from pursue the objective method God is the external object of their worship and adoration, with whom they want to untie their souls. The out and out monistic aspirants, on the other hand follows form the very beginning the subjective form of spiritual practice in which the object of meditation is no other than his own true Self which is infinite and absolute by nature. He usually mediates on the monistic maxim, “I am Brahman” or “Thou art That” . By means of this he tries to expand his limited consciousness to Infinite and Absolute Consciousness or Super-consciousness, rising above all limitations, physical and metal. At first he takes the help of the dualism of subject and object inseparable from relative existence, though in this he stresses the subject or Self more than the object. And finally, he attains that which transcends all duality and relatively, all conceptions of the knower, known and knowledge in the words of Sri Ramakrishna, he is like a salt doll dissolved in the ocean. Courtesy essential of spiritual life
But, if He exists?
I drive joy There was a doctor in Benaras who spent 7 minutes in the morning and evening for mediation on God. Knowing this, his colleagues and friends laughed at him. One day they argued that he was wasting ten precious minutes on something, which he had been misled into believing. The doctor replied, “Well, if God does not exist, I agree that I am wasting ten minutes a day. But, if He exists? I am afraid you are wasting your entire lifetime. I prefer to waste ten minutes rather than a lifetime. Why should you grudge me the 10 minutes joy that I derive 4m.